Archive: Guest Blogs

A Journey With Cancer

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By A.A. Camp Four years ago, I had thyroid cancer. Breast cancer is my second journey with the disease. Now I follow the same painful path my mother and grandmother trod for many years. My thoughts have turned inward the past few months as I continue through cancer diagnosis and treatment. I would like to know many things that can't be found out. I think of many things that I can find out but do not really want to know. My thyroid cancer was...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | April 29, 2008; 07:05 AM ET | Comments (0)

Eviction Notice

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Dawn Zamanis I am a divorced single mother to five sons under age 15. I work from home as a freelance writer. I live with a benign brain tumor. I've fallen off the proverbial balance beam so many times over the years, all I've got to pass on today is my conviction that balancing life means keeping life in perspective. Five years ago, it might have appeared that I had it all. I was married, living in a sprawling mini-mansion on the west...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | April 22, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

One Mom Heads Back to Work -- Reluctantly

By Amy Mueller For the past two and a half years, I have been a stay-at-home mother. We have one child, a girl. Since I have become a parent, most other things have taken a back seat in my life, including daily showers and wearing make-up. I have been OK with that. I welcomed this change with open arms. I have a community of wonderful women surrounding me who relate to my priorities: We want our kids to be happy and comfortable, and that is more important to us than the newest shade of eye shadow or Coach purse. But I digress. Last week, I started my first full-time job since the birth of my little girl. I don't have a choice in the matter, as our family needs the extra income. My husband and I talked to our toddler about the changes. She knew she was going to start...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | April 15, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (203)

Finding a Needle in a Haystack

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Kathleen Wiant I worked full time as a mother of one. I loved working. I didn't like my son being in day care all day. Upon having my second child, I asked my employer if I could work part-time in the office while managing my full-time sales territory. I wanted to be evaluated on performance, not face time. The CEO and President at the time, a working mother of four named Carol Clark, agreed. The arrangement proved beneficial to both the company and...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | April 8, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (45)

Identity Crisis

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Vindhya Chari As a professional who left work to be at home when my second child was born, I have had a year and a half to think about what life, work and family balance mean to me. The major stress of not working, besides real or perceived financial dependence, is my loss of identity. I always defined myself by my role at work. The first couple of months I stayed home, I faltered when introducing myself. It was surprisingly difficult to say...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | April 1, 2008; 07:10 AM ET | Comments (0)

Motherhood Take Two

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Suzanne Goode I've come to learn through the past 20 years that there are many forms of motherhood. Take Jean, my friend for 17 years. We met as “trailing spouses” in Cairo during the Gulf War. My husband was an economist in the foreign service; Jean'’s was the Head Marine Guard. I had two pre-schoolers; Jean'’s husband had two young daughters from his first marriage who were living with his ex-wife on the West Coast of the United States. Jean was footloose and...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | March 18, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

A Divided Village

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Diana Beckmann My sister and I are two years apart. I'm the oldest. We have always been very different, and not able to appreciate each other. So ours was a tense childhood. But then we both got married within a year and had daughters 13 months apart. Suddenly, we had so much in common, or so I thought. I knew that my sister and I were raising our kids differently. But she lives hundreds of miles away, and the differences weren't so obvious...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | March 11, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (75)

First-Year Lawyer -- And Mother

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Kathryn Beaumont I am a third-year law student. Graduation is on my horizon, as is a coveted spot at the biggest law firm in town. After nine years as a journalist, I went to law school seeking an intellectual challenge. Frankly -- as a single 30-something -- I also wanted financial security. I found both, as well as a husband, and then a daughter, who was born last July, halfway through my stint as a summer associate. Law school, it turns out, is...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | March 4, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (93)

Passion, Work and Motherhood

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Catherine Clifford When I was in high school, I only knew one type of passion (hint: it had nothing to do with work). So, when my son, a junior in high school, came home from Career Day fired up about finding his passion, I was all ears. He was in charge of the day, which they called FYI (Find Your Inspiration). He and his peers invited "cool adults" (aka not Mom or Dad) to discuss how they chose their respective career paths. As...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | February 26, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (46)

Spinning the Illusion of Balance

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Katherine L. Farnham It's Wednesday morning. My husband is on a plane to California. I'm driving to a distant meeting. I'm late because my dog threw up as we left. Meanwhile, I must rearrange my schedule for another meeting, apply to pre-K for next year and plan a long-overdue weekend party. My head reels with all I need to remember. Then, my mother calls. Instead of sobbing about my insane life, I spin. I don't mention that I'm exhausted, or that juggling four...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | February 19, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (79)

Bonbons and Lattes

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Linda Nazareth The at-home moms spent the morning eating bonbons while I was at work, I said, sarcastically to myself. No wonder they got here first.” At least that's what part of me wanted to snap when my daughter said I was the last mom to arrive for kindergarten pick up. What I really said was, "“Hey, I missed all the lights, okay? And school was over like four minutes ago." I rolled my eyes and she rolled hers back. My sarcasm about...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | February 12, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (85)

The New Dad -- In the House and on TV

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Peggy Drexler If television reflects the state of the sexes, men are in trouble. I've watched two episodes now of ABC's Cashmere Mafia and I see a gaggle of males who are insecure, dependent, jealous and damaged. I caught a few episodes of Big Shots, and I see stooges with money -- self involved twits who endlessly discuss their sorry lives over Scotch and cigars. Just this week on the first episode of HBO's In Treatment, a patient tells her therapist about her...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | February 5, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (21)

Post-Divorce Balance

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Page Evans Driving from the airport to his family's lake house, the panic set in. Racing heart, sweaty palms, shortness of breath. "I don't think you understand," I told the man I'd been dating for a year. "I'm afraid of your children. You're gonna have to take me back to the airport." Obviously, I'm not the first person to date someone with kids. We're both divorced with children from our previous marriages, so meeting and spending time with each other's families is a...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 29, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Are You Blended?

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Gina Chen A fellow mom recently explained that "balance" or "juggling" has been replaced by "blending" -- the new term for what we parents do, trying to perform well at our paid jobs while keeping our kids fed, healthy and safe. I immediately Googled it. Sure enough, the term comes up in many mainstream publications. The idea, I guess, is to put a positive spin on what we do rather than make it seem like the crazy calisthenics it is most days, at...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 22, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (39)

Homework Help

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Julie Lenzer Kirk The other morning at breakfast my 10-year-old daughter announced, "If I get a bad grade on this paper, it is your fault." Ugh. Right for the jugular of the guilt-ridden working mom. Thankfully, that did not describe me anymore. I gave up guilt years ago when I realized that I was in control of how much guilt I felt. Prior to this revelation, my daughter's comment would have had me erupting into a screaming tirade, much as my similar announcements...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 15, 2008; 07:20 AM ET | Comments (0)

Soccer Mom

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Maggie Leifer McGary It all started when I went to see my 11-year-old daughter's championship soccer game. Soccer is not my bag; for the most part, her dad attends practices and games. What does that say about me as a mom that I don't make every soccer game or hockey match? In today's kid-centric society, admitting I don't feel it necessary to attend every sports event is tantamount to announcing that I'm a crack addict. As I was watching the big game, I...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 8, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Breast Cancer and Balance

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Ann Bradley As a full-time worker for the past 25 years and the mother of three children ranging in age from 5 to 16 (plus two teenage stepchildren), I have struggled to "balance" my life for years. Now, at this busy holiday time, I am struggling to balance work, family, and breast cancer. Some decisions are easy. My husband and I sat down with the kids and redistributed household duties to get me through treatment. I accepted an invitation from a friend for...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | December 18, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (19)

A Tale of Two Decembers

By Denise Aranoff-Brown Since I moved to the D.C. area almost 10 years ago, I have been a marketing executive in the banking/financial services industry running a 40-person department. We moved here so my husband could start a new business and I could support us while he ramped up. We had two kids in three years. Our sons, now 7 and 4, were well cared for in day care and after-care programs that they have attended since they were 3 months old. All was very "balanced" in our lives. Except that inertia had set in professionally and I had zero time to figure out what I wanted to do. Then, suddenly last December, I was offered a generous severance package and literally walked away from my career. Now, I had time to look for that next, more inspiring opportunity. But in 10 years in which I had accomplished so much...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | December 11, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (62)

Mommy Wars in India

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Priyadarshini Narendra I'm a "working mom" from India with two kids under five. The issues of "balance" are the same here as everywhere else in the world, and I would like to put in my two paise (cents) on the subject. I've lived both lives, and neither is better. I had to quit my work in marketing during my first pregnancy due to complications. For six months after my son arrived, I stayed home because I couldn't face the thought of leaving him....

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | December 4, 2007; 07:10 AM ET | Comments (91)

Mothering from Scratch

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Amy Nathan When my son was three I became a new mom -- again. What I learned in those first few hours as the mother of two was more than I'd found in any book of maternal expectations. Although I was an expert at being my little boy's mom, when it came to my newborn daughter, I was mothering from scratch. I considered myself a veteran of the mommy wars. I'd survived preschool admissions and the carpool line. But only a few hours...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | November 27, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (83)

For Henry

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Jill Lakin Schatz "Your baby knows how to be born." These words of a friend rang in my head during the delivery of my son, Henry, which was fairly brief and characterized by relief that he came out with all ten toes (I worried too much Diet Pepsi at the end of my pregnancy would reduce the number to nine). But did I know how to be a mother? The early months of motherhood were filled with trying to be the perfect mother;...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | November 20, 2007; 07:15 AM ET | Comments (0)

View from the Front Lines

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Peggy Drexler I've never liked the term: working mother. It says that I am some kind of sub-category; not a full member of the club. Maybe I'll feel better about it the day I hear someone called a "working father." The label combines a bit of praise for a super-human effort with a whiff of disapproval for the fact that balancing work and family means someone is getting short-changed. I was on the front lines of that conflict for many years. Then one day, I...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | November 13, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Including Samuel

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. Please note that this Guest Blog ran last Tuesday. Technical difficulties prevented many readers from seeing it. There is also an interview with Dan Habib and his wife Betsy McNamara in today's Washington Post Health section. By Dan Habib When Samuel was four years old, I sat at his hospital bedside as he lay in a medically-induced coma. He had developed pneumonia from complications following surgery. Samuel's neurologist, Dr. James Filiano, encouraged me to be a photojournalist in the midst of my fear. "You...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | November 6, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Assistants On The Treadmill

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Writers need to use their full names. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Maggie Leifer McGary I was watching Oprah while I was on the treadmill one morning last week and Cathie Black, president of Hearst Magazines, was the guest. She has a new book out, Basic Black: The Essential Guide for Getting Ahead at Work (and in Life), the premise of which is the concept of the "360 degree life;" e.g. work/life balance. Oprah's cameras followed Black through her typical day: treadmill at 6:30 a.m., dash to the office, meetings, event after work, then home...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 30, 2007; 07:38 AM ET | Comments (0)

Balance Amidst the California Wildfires

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday (or in special cases like this one, on other days), "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Your essay will be published using your full name. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Barbara A. Rose I've never faced the typical home and work balancing act, as I don't have children and am not married. But I know what balance is now. In southern California where I live, starting this past Monday every television channel dumped its regular programming to broadcast about the wildfire emergency caused by the Santa Ana winds. Calls went out for volunteers and materiel at Qualcomm Stadium. Requests were made...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 26, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (57)

Church Moms

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Your essay will be published using your full name. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Elizabeth Eisenstadt Evans She caught up with me as I walked away from the church. That Sunday morning, I had been leading worship at our 1,500-member contemporary evangelical church service. I was the only woman priest on the four-person clergy staff. My husband, also a priest, served in another parish. Our daughter was in first grade at a public school near our home, and our son was in the Pre-K class at the church day school. As a trailblazer -- the...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 23, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Doctor Mom

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. by S. Aziz A friend asked me recently, "How's it going juggling work and family?" I paused. I knew the right answer was, "Really well! I love my job. I love being a mom. Blah blah blah." Before I could say anything she said, "You must be really good at it now that you've been doing it for a year." In my mind I ran through the last year. I have a fifteen-month-old now who is adorable. I'm a doctor at a hospital 45 minutes from home. Even with my limited...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 16, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (70)

From Single Girl to Supermom

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By R. Freeman Balance has suddenly become my big issue. I always assumed, being the child of parents under 50, that I'd have decades before I dealt with end-of-life issues first-hand, and that my kids would be grown and I'd be settled in my career by then. I'm 28, and have been married for two years. I work for a large software development firm, doing process quality analysis, a job which I didn't think I'd like until I started doing it a year and a half ago. My partner is a...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 9, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (40)

I'm the Mommy

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Kamyra L. Harding I am the Afro-Caribbean-American mother of a bi-racial preschooler. My son is pale like his father. People often assume that I am my son's nanny. Or a black sitter for a white child. Or a family friend, stepmother or aunt by marriage. This never happens when the three of us are together; I guess we interact like an obvious family unit. For four years I've struggled with my reaction to this assumption. Long ago, I lost interest in the socio-economic, political messages. My feelings have disintegrated from...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 2, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (160)

A Layoff's Unexpected Bonus

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Rodney McKenzie My summer started early this year with one of the realities of corporate life -- layoffs. While my family and friends welcomed spring, my staff and I said our "goodbyes." Even though my employer's decision to outsource didn't come as a total surprise, it was still somewhat traumatic to face maintaining a part-time single parent household with a child in private school on...well...no income. But that's it for the sad stuff; here is where the fun begins. My 10- year-old son, for whom I have joint custody with...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | September 25, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (209)

My Three Most Annoying Questions

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Constance Thomas As an at-home working mother, I've found people repeat particular sayings that rub me the wrong way every time. Here are my three most annoying questions and comments and my answers. 1. "Do you work?" I often bite my tongue to stop myself from responding "Doesn't everybody work?" I can count on one hand the number of people I've met in my lifetime who would categorically respond that no, I don't work. Here's my typical response..."I work at home. No, no, I don't mean I'm a stay-at-home mom....

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | September 18, 2007; 07:15 AM ET | Comments (0)

Anna's Journal 09-11-01

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Gregory M. Cork As we approached the sixth anniversary of the day that pretty much changed everything, I reread my journal entry to my daughter Anna from 9/11/2001. Just as I hope that Anna will get something from this journal entry in years to come, I hope you get something from the entry now. September 11, 2001 Dear Anna, You'll learn about what happened in New York and in Washington today probably even before you start school. It's easily the most awful day your mother or father has been alive...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | September 11, 2007; 07:15 AM ET | Comments (0)

Firing My Son

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Paul Kidwell I just hired my son to design a web site for me. He's 15 years old with a strong talent for web design. I thought I'd help him fill some idle hours and put a few extra dollars into his wallet. After our initial meeting, the project seemed like it was moving forward. I had given him a fair deadline of two weeks. For his first "deliverable" I asked him to provide me with an estimate of how many hours he felt it would take him to design...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | September 4, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (114)

The 68-Year Old Entrepreneur, Part II

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Joan Weintrob Please see the yesterday's Guest Blog for Part I of Joan Weintrob's story. In the 1970s many orthotic and prosthetic facilities were pretty rough around the edges. Nice people ran them, but with minimal attention to professional standards, aesthetics, patient comfort, and working conditions. In my jobs running Inova Fairfax Hospital's Occupational Therapy and Orthotic-Prosthetic departments and as a Certified Prosthetist Orthotist I had visited enough of them to know I could do better. What I especially wanted was to show the orthotic-prosthetic profession how a truly professional...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 29, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (221)

The 68-Year-Old Entrepreneur, Part I

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Joan Weintrob There I was, less than a month after graduating from college and already married. Yes, that's the way we did it back in 1960. My mother and three aunts were all working mothers and I was about to follow in their footsteps. Married life and work was an adventure--moving from the East Coast to Los Angeles and work as an occupational therapist on the beach in Santa Monica. Then came pregnancy and baby, followed immediately by a move to Dayton, Ohio, where I had no family and few...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 28, 2007; 06:15 AM ET | Comments (211)

Frieda's Balancing Act

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday (and days like today when I'm on vacation) "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By A.A. Camp For over 20 years I have worked as a lactation (breast-feeding) specialist for the health department and hospital in our small town near New Orleans. I have advised two generations of women, including many mother and daughter combinations. I have always enjoyed this job and believe that I have made a positive contribution to the community. In late August 2005, Hurricane Katrina moved us out of our house and devastated the New Orleans area. The hurricane changed our life and my...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 27, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (131)

Staying for The Sake of the Kids

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday and on days like today when I'm on vacation, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Maggie Leifer McGary "You have a lot of 'babies,' " my nine-year-old son said to me a few months ago, glaring at me over the lunch table. I had just gotten off the phone with my fiance. I'd ended the call with my usual "bye, baby." My son apparently hadn't appreciated my using that particular term of endearment for anyone but himself. I can't say I blame him; it must be incredibly hard to watch your mother love someone new, whether...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 21, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

America the Beautiful

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Clare I want to merge two very controversial topics--immigration and home/life balance. This past weekend I drove my 12-year-old daughter and her friends to a sleep-away summer camp in Maryland. We picnicked and swam at the nearby Elk Neck State Park on the Chesapeake Bay. It is a gorgeous park with leafy woods and a lovely little beach with calm, warm waters. There were lots of families at the park and at least half were immigrants, based on the amazing variety of language and food and music. Alongside the family...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 14, 2007; 07:40 AM ET | Comments (280)

Getting Rid of Time Sinks

By Rebeldad Brian Reid The chief challenge in balance, on a personal level, is making time for all of the stuff that needs to be packed into a day. And while there are now about a hundred thousand books out there that will teach you to do more, faster, it seems like the best way to extend a 24-hour day is to ruthlessly eliminate those time sinks that steal hours or minutes and give little in return. I've identified a number of time sinks in my own life, three of which I have made progress toward eliminating: TV: Once upon a time, before kids, I followed a huge number of TV shows. I was conversant in ER, NYPD Blue, the X-Files, all those now-defunct Thursday comedies and a handful of other shows I probably would not admit to watching if confronted. At the same time, I was working 10-hour days...

 

By Brian Reid | August 9, 2007; 08:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Are You The Other Mother?

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Gwendolen Gross Eight years ago, I had my first child. I faced an identity transition from editor/opera singer to mother/writer/teacher, and a move from grad school renter to homeowner in a leafy suburb where women dressed up to go to Rite-Aid. As part of early motherhood, I had to answer the common question: "So, are you going back to work?" It sounded harmless enough. But underlying that question were the battle lines of post-feminist womanhood. If you choose to be a mother, what kind will you be? Will you breastfeed?...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 7, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Between Two Cultures

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Ann I am Chinese-American. My husband is American-born Caucasian. When my husband and I first married eight years ago, questions about how to raise children, what cultural beliefs and values to instill in them, and what traditions to pass on to them never entered our minds. I had known for most of my life that I did not want children, and my husband was unsure, so we thought we would not have children. Somewhere down the road, I changed my mind and my husband wanted to be a father. Now,...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 24, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (336)

52 and Used Up?

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Karen Bernstein At 52, I am too young to be used up. But it appears that employers see it differently. I have been searching for fulfilling full-time employment for more than two years. It doesn't seem to matter that I have a college degree, a post-graduate paralegal certificate and a strong professional employment history. Apparently, the black mark on my resume is that my professional experience came to a halt twenty years ago. It was not intended to be that way; life got in the way. I was going to...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 17, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (412)

Hi Boss! I'm Pregnant - Again!

Welcome to the "On Balance" guest blog. Every Tuesday (or on days like today when Leslie is on vacation), "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Melissa Weber Telling my boss I was pregnant the first time was easy. Everyone I knew, including my boss, expected to hear the news at some point. I had been married for 12 years, I was in my mid-30's, and you could hear my biological clock ticking from the next room. When I finished the first trimester, I happily walked into her office to announce our good fortune. She smiled, we hugged, and we prepared for my maternity leave. With...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 16, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Teenagers, Romance and Balance

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By WorkingMomX About two years ago, my stepdaughter, then a senior in high school, announced that she had decided to move in with her boyfriend (also a senior) instead of attending one of the many colleges to which she'd been accepted. Our initial reaction was anger and disbelief, followed closely by pleading, and then by despair. We realized that since she was going to be 18 soon there was little -- if anything -- we could do to save her from herself. Six weeks after they moved in together, their relationship exploded...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 10, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (364)

Two Navels At Work

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Melissa Weber It's an embarrassing photo: silly and undignified. At least it's better than the one of us eating straight from a peanut butter jar. Coworkers can be so cruel. Standing in profile in my best maternity work outfit, I am bloated and fat-faced. Kellie, who looked better pregnant, stands with her back to mine. Our navels point aggressively in opposite directions. The occasion was a joint baby shower held in our honor at work. We were coworkers who had conceived (and a months later, delivered our first babies) at nearly...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 3, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (339)

Balance for One

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Varina Winder I'm 23 years old. I'm not married. I have no kids. No one depends on me for sustenance, physical or emotional. So why does my life feel so...unbalanced? Since graduating from college in 2006, I have found it almost impossible to find "balance" in my life. While I once juggled five classes, a job search, coordinating rent payments from my eight roommates, an internship and a part-time babysitting job, I'm finding it completely impossible to maintain that same act now that I'm an official member of the "real" world....

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 26, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (486)

The Breadwinner

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Linda Nason McElherne After reading the article about Leslie's findings on stay-at-home moms in Newsweek (May 28, 2007), I am writing to let you know, I am apparently the one and only woman -- single, masters-educated, author, designer, educator who has had trouble finding a good full-time job after being home for 10 years with four kids. Starting at my divorce proceedings in 1999, I have struggled to get a decent job for eight years. Since I am raising four kids alone, I have to have a full-time job and two...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 19, 2007; 06:30 AM ET | Comments (0)

Back on the Career Track

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Carol Fishman Cohen In Leslie's anthology Mommy Wars, there's an essay by Washington Post reporter Lonnae O'Neal Parker about her husband vetoing the family's annual Christmas photos shortly after she left her job to stay home. Lonnae's story really struck me. I remember when I had been home full-time with my kids for four years, and my husband sold some stock we had bought a few years before -- without consulting me. I was angry with him. But I was also hurt, because despite my MBA and prior successful finance career,...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 12, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

One Is My Happy Number

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Rachel Powell For my husband and me, there was never any question. We did not agonize over our decision or worry that we were doing the wrong thing. We were going to try for one child. If we were lucky enough to get that one, we would be done. It wasn't because I was older, which I was (35). It wasn't because I have had polycystic ovary disease since I was 17 and had been told that my ovaries would probably be too scarred to work correctly if I tried to...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 5, 2007; 06:45 AM ET | Comments (0)

Small-Town Child-Care Woes

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog -- except that today is Wednesday. Once a week "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Leslie Powell Is it just me, or is high-quality child care impossible to find if you live well outside a major urban area? I live in a small town in Connecticut. Not in the part of Connecticut within commuting distance of New York City. Farther out, where the closest Starbucks is several towns away and New Yorkers are mostly glimpsed in the dusty, narrow aisles of antique shops on weekend afternoons in summer. The headaches started when I went back to work full-time about...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | May 30, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Generation Gap With Mom

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Chasmosaur Let's face it -- most of us go to our mothers for advice, as much as we may or may not want to. I've only been married a few years, but I've pretty much already stopped asking my mother for marital wisdom. Not because she's a bad role model -- she's an amazing woman. She's a Super Mom in many respects. She gave up school after her second child was born but went back to it later and now makes Martha Stewart look like an indifferent entertainer/gardener/interior designer. But I...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | May 22, 2007; 05:01 AM ET | Comments (336)

Care for the Caregiver

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Amy Stuart Taylor I'm a 37-year old married mom of eight-year-old twin boys, currently living in Indiana. I stayed home until my sons were three and then returned to work part-time as a school psychologist. A year ago--bored with testing and diagnosing kids and having rediscovered my love of writing--I quit. This year, I've freelanced and tried to discern where to go next. Now, I'm hoping to dive back into the workforce as a writer or journalist. Here's my observation. Many of my friends chose careers like teaching, counseling, nursing, ministry,...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | May 15, 2007; 07:45 AM ET | Comments (0)

Maternity Leave -- What's Fair?

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Michele Degani I received a job offer a few weeks ago. It was great except for the maternity leave policy, which HR told me was generous. The policy: First year of employment, you can buy short-term disability (STD), which might pay 60% of your salary while you're out, but the details are gray. After one year, the company gives you three weeks of time off with full pay, and then you get nine weeks of STD at 60% of your salary. I'm 42, and have a one-year-old daughter. I married my...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | May 8, 2007; 07:15 AM ET | Comments (523)

Asking For What We're Worth

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Shellye Archambeau You know what I find frustrating? That so many smart, hard-working women make less money than men. Only 77 cents on the dollar, according to the latest Labor Department report. However, I don't believe there is a conspiracy. Senior managers are not plotting and planning to underpay women. Having spent over 22 years in the male-dominated technology industry, managing organizations of all sizes, it continues to disappoint me that in most cases women aren't asking for the money they deserve, and therefore aren't getting it. In most large and...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | May 1, 2007; 08:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Caring for Mom

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Judi Nagle In 1997, my 75-year-old mother was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. Fortunately, she lived in the area, she kept her marbles (most of the time) and most importantly, she had longterm care insurance . During the years of her illness, I got married and unexpectedly, at the age of 41, had a child. I continued to work at a job I loved. Mom lived in a facility that was nearby but difficult to get to. She hated that she would be remembered as a sick old lady. I was glad...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | April 24, 2007; 07:33 AM ET | Comments (0)

Religion in an Age of Balance

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Lucinda Brown Religion is the framework of my life. My faith reminds me that I am not alone in the world, that I am part of a larger community to which I am responsible and from which I can draw strength, and that I can find hope in the face of whatever adversities life brings. These basic assurances, woven into the fabric of my life, have been invaluable as I've moved into new communities, faced unexpected health crises and dealt with the deaths of people near and dear to me. The...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | April 10, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (531)

Childless at Work

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By MustangsII Last year I started a new job at a large contracting firm in Springfield, Va. During my interview and for the first couple of weeks into my new job, I was told I would be able to telecommute at least twice a week. I quickly found out that in reality, the only people allowed to telecommute in my department were mothers. Another new employee and I got up enough nerve to ask, after several months on the job, when we would be allowed to telecommute as promised. We were told...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | April 3, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Family in Crisis

Welcome to this week's guest blog -- switching days this week because of the day-care study. Every week "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Vegas Mom I dove into the car to retrieve my ringing cell phone. I'd just dropped my daughter off for her last day of preschool and was running late for work. I gasped, "Hey, what's up?" My husband's voice sounded different, strained. "I'm hurt." When we got married 15 years ago, we promised to love and care for each other "in sickness and in health." We were young and in love. I'm not sure either of us understood the gravity of...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | March 28, 2007; 07:30 AM ET | Comments (336)

55 Years of Balance

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Fred I will be 55 this year. Not an amazing accomplishment nowadays, but I have outlived two of my seven brothers. I am grateful for outliving my father and mother. Mother died several years ago and dad three years this month. My father was a typical '50's era dad: strong, silent, work-focused and somewhat withdrawn. The one thing that I always knew was that Dad loved Mom unconditionally and almost blindly. She loved him in the same way. This always baffled me a bit, and I wonder if I love Frieda...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | March 21, 2007; 06:45 AM ET | Comments (433)

All Possible Compromises

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Susan Burns I have the best of jobs and the worst of jobs. I have taught engineering at the college level for 10 years, and I cannot imagine a more enjoyable and fulfilling career. The yearly influx of young, eager students who are interested in learning what I am interested in teaching renews my soul in a fundamental way every time I teach a new class. However, while my hours are somewhat flexible, they are demanding, requiring long days. Unfortunately, I have a big-city commute. As a compromise to try to...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | March 13, 2007; 07:30 AM ET | Comments (360)

Looking for Balance in All the Wrong Places

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Robert Drago Young women seeking success in both career and family life are often advised to find men who cook and employers with family-friendly policies. Where has this advice taken us? As I find in Striking a Balance, the advice helped some: Parents in dual-earner couples now split child care almost equally. But the strategy was generally a failure. According to the 2002 National Study of the Changing Workforce, fewer than two million mothers held career jobs working at least 45 hours per week while 12 million held jobs paying less...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | March 6, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (376)

Foamgnome Weighs in On "One"

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Foamgnome I sit at my computer and contemplate another job switch. I had a bad incident at work several weeks ago. My three-year-old daughter was sent home from preschool with a stomach virus. My husband was out of town on a business trip. I ended up missing two and half days of work. Back at work, my new boss was upset that I took off for my sick child. I am not sure what he expected me to do because she was not eligible to go to day care and we...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | February 27, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Equal Parenting

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Marc and Amy Vachon Our 4 ½-year-old daughter learned her days of the week by which one of us was home with her. If Daddy is dishing out breakfast, it must be a Tuesday. If Mommy's here, it's Friday. Her schedule may vary from day to day, but she figured out the pattern pretty quickly. Now that her little brother has joined the family, he, too, has become familiar with the dance we call Equally Shared Parenting. We've been semi-regular contributors to this blog for awhile now, and wanted to chime...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | February 20, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (179)

A Helping Hand for One Boy's Hero

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Jennifer Parresol I am a single mother of two children, and, for four years, I have received assistance through Virginia's child care fee system. Some people may think parents who receive child-care assistance are sitting at home, taking advantage of the system. But the people in my program are hard-working and have full-time jobs or are going to school to receive a higher paying job or better career. The average yearly cost to put two school-age children in day care before and after school, plus all day in the summer, is...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | February 13, 2007; 06:30 AM ET | Comments (410)

9/11 Dad

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Steve Fox My eight-year-old son recently came home with a book titled: September 11, 2001: The Day That Changed America. My first reaction: What's THAT book doing in an elementary school? Then I remembered that whole censorship thing. As a journalist, I'm supposed to be against that. As a parent, I want all 9/11 books moved to the middle school library. I asked my son why he had picked out the book. He said: "I wanted to read about it because you never talk about it and I wanted to see...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | February 6, 2007; 07:30 AM ET | Comments (549)

Listen to LaTonya's World

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished story (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life.

By LaTonya Poole

Today, we're trying a different type of Guest Blog -- an audio interview with LaTonya Poole, full-time government employee, mom of two kids under ten and entrepreneur. So, put on your headphones or shut your office door and hear about LaTonya's life juggling work, motherhood and starting her own business, N The Loop On-line.

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 30, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Finding Balance While Making a Difference

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. Today's writer tackles the powerful role American immigration has played in her personal and professional life, in honor of President Bush's State of the Union speech tonight, which is expected to address his administration's domestic agenda, including proposals for alternative energy, health care and immigration reform. By Leslye E. Orloff I consider myself very lucky. I've spent my professional life helping immigrant women and their children, all victims of domestic violence or sexual assault, find the assistance they need. It's not easy, and finding time for myself and my family has always...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 23, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (260)

Finding Balance Through Exercise

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Alison Korn For months after birthing twins, I waited to feel rested again so I could resume exercising. Ha! Laugh all you want. As a new mom, I didn't know I might never feel rested again. But soon enough I figured out that this reality shouldn't stop me from exercising in order to lower my stress level. I used to work out full time -- three sessions a day, six days a week -- with the Canadian national rowing team. After racing at the 1996 and 2000 Olympics, I retired from...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 16, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

What About Moms Who Want to Work?

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Stephanie Himel-Nelson In one Guest Blog last year, Erin Armendinger wrote compellingly about her choice to put family before her career in At Your Funeral No One Reads Your Resume. Because of her difficulty in carrying a pregnancy, Ms. Armendinger discovered early what many working women do not understand until after they give birth. To quote the Johnson & Johnson commercials: "Having a baby changes everything." I agree with that. But I take issue with other parts of what Ms. Armendinger had to say: So many discussions about combining children and...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 9, 2007; 07:53 PM ET | Comments (0)

Eating Acorns

Happy 2007 and welcome to the Tuesday guest blog! Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Alexandra Moses I left my job 18 months before I had a baby. My husband took a job transfer and I saw it as an opportunity to make a change. I was bored at work, and this was a chance to find real happiness. Then I got pregnant. My job hunt in a new city was thrown into chaos, and the circuits in my brain went haywire. Yes, we wanted children, but I didn't know whether I'd want to stay home. I'd always assumed I'd have a job...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | January 2, 2007; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Milk Mania

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog (even though today is Wednesday). Every Tuesday (with occasional exceptions) "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Alisa Hamilton My daughter was three months old when I had to take my first business trip. Actually, it was three weeks' worth of small trips all over the country. I was breastfeeding exclusively at the time. I just wasn't prepared to introduce formula unless it was absolutely necessary. And as far as I could tell, it wasn't. I knew for about a month in advance that the trips were looming, which gave me adequate time to stress and panic about how my...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | December 20, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (292)

Mom Runs a Funeral Home

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Jennifer Budd Wright I have a job that always sparks conversation. One that usually goes like this: "What do you do?" "I am a funeral director." "Reeeaally?... Have you ever watched Six Feet Under on HBO? Do you do everything? Reeeaally?" I was raised in a funeral home, so I find my work perfectly normal. I am very good at what I do and I am a hard worker. I think women tend to be more empathetic and I have been told that I have the ability to put people at...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | December 12, 2006; 08:00 AM ET | Comments (152)

Job Hunting Down Under

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Kirsten Lees A friend of mine went for a job interview recently. She's the other side of 40 (her first big mistake) but since she's still got all her teeth and her not-inconsiderable brain is in excellent working order -- not to mention her award-studded resume, including international work experience -- she thought she'd get a good hearing. The interview lasted an hour. The questions were probing -- no problem -- but the line of questioning became increasingly personal. My friend did her best to answer honestly and to stay polite....

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | December 5, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

At Your Funeral No One Reads Your Resume

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Erin Armendinger To go to business school sponsored by my employer, I worked full-time and went to school full-time for two years straight with no breaks. I married my college sweetheart while I was in school. (I postponed our honeymoon to take mid-terms.) After school I changed careers and entered the retail field, which is the industry where I currently work. My husband and I wanted children but were always waiting for a "better" time -- after the next promotion, after school, after I established myself in my new career. As...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | November 28, 2006; 09:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

My Own Private Hurricane

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Stacey Garfinkle July 27, 2005, will live forever in my family as the day the tree fell. A freak 15-minute microburst swept through Silver Spring, Md., toppling our neighbor's 80-foot tulip poplar into my children's bedroom at 6:15 p.m. My three-year-old's bed was crushed to smithereens. A large portion of the roof lay against my one-year-old's crib. At the time, I was driving home from work, feeling fortunate that I'd narrowly escaped a tree falling on my car. My husband and children were downstairs when they heard the crash and the...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | November 21, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (122)

Mother-In-Law Makes Five

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your original, unpublished entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Mary Ellen Halloran Many years before we met, my husband had promised his dying father that he would always take care of his mother. When we had been married less than a year, she retired from her job as a school secretary. Our first child was due in a few months. Buying a house with her seemed to be a very efficient solution to keeping his promise. The deal was, we would buy a house together, she would live with us and take care of our children. I had very idealistic...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | November 14, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

30 Going On 13

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Sara Fisher Being a new mom is a little like being in middle school. You have bad hair days all the time, you hate your body and are nervous that you won't "fit in." This is exacerbated for me because I work part time, approximately 25-30 hours per week spread over three days. I can't just meander the streets with my baby and meet new mom friends randomly. If I want to make the most of my "mom" role, I need to structure my days off to stay in the loop with my...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 31, 2006; 09:30 AM ET | Comments (154)

Mommy, Do We Have A Job Today?

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Marissa Rauch "Mommy do we have a job today?" are the first words my five-year-old daughter utters as she walks into my room wiping the sleep from her eyes. "Yes, honey, we do," I reply, since it is summer, which equals no school and no help. We need to go to work to pay for food and baseball cards (her current passion). This is her life, the life that I chose for us, so we could spend our time together. Our life is a far cry from my previous profession doing trade legislation...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 24, 2006; 08:30 AM ET | Comments (110)

Life After Mary Poppins

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Reshma Memon Yaqub Gimme a nine-letter word for "freedom". P-R-E-S-C-H-O-O-L. I can't tell you how long I waited for Zach, my youngest, to start preschool. Oh, wait... yes, I can! Two years, eight months and 30 days. Shortly after Zach was born, I quit working. And by working, I mean working for actual money. I worked through my older son's first few years. He had the most remarkable nanny (Mary Poppins, complete with British accent) six hours a day, hours that I used to churn out thoughtful prose in exchange for cold cash....

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 17, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (192)

No Kids For Me

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Jamie Page Deaton My mother, who's no fool, had three children and three epidurals. She's described giving birth as more pressure than pain. She doesn't know the half of it. As a childless woman, and one who plans to remain so, I feel so much pressure to defend my decision that I doubt any number of epidurals could help. I know I shouldn't have to justify my and my husband's choice not to have kids. Just the same, people feel the need to butt in. "You'll change your mind eventually," coos a relative....

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 10, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (530)

Reversal of Fortune

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. by Mary Knobler My husband and I have a very traditional relationship except for one thing...our roles have been switched. It wasn't always that way. When we married 12 years ago we were both making the same amount of money. He had his own business in a creative field and I had a job I really enjoyed working in finance. A few years and a couple of kids later we decided that it made sense for him to stay at home. I know that there are many people who can't afford to have a...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | October 3, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (149)

Father of 4 Tells All

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. Scraping By By Father of 4 My wife is a hero. Since the time she was a teenager, she helped her father raise her four younger siblings after her mother abandoned the family. When I met her, she was barely supporting herself by working retail. I had just enough experience to get a full-time programming job, so I dropped out of college and went for the money. I bought a small chunk of carbon and a gold ring on credit. It was the best investment I ever made. Two weeks after returning to work...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | September 26, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (308)

Before Baby

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By E. M. Wallace I read this blog every day and I'm not really sure why. My husband and I don't have kids and aren't sure where they fit into our future. Some of the blog topics start conversations and make us consider different ideas. We don't know if both of us should work or if one of us should work. One of us has a job that's a passion, but doesn't yet pay enough to support a whole family. The other one has a job that's financially lucrative but isn't remotely fulfilling. We...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | September 19, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (372)

Ten Million Words

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Heather Murphy Capps Once upon a time I assumed that after I had children I would go back to work -- felt strongly about it, actually. Recently however, I surprised myself by deciding to be a stay-at-home mom. My reversal was a careful, considered decision, and yet, it still frightened me. Would I lose my career forever? Would I disqualify myself as a feminist with my deliberate domesticity? My transition happened last fall as I contemplated the arrival of my first child and found myself endlessly mulling the words of a mentor: "You...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | September 12, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (258)

Reinventing the Workplace

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober Protests over work hours gave us Labor Day in 1894. Americans have re-invented the workplace many times since and it's time to do it again. Census data shows that 60 percent of married couples have been dual-career for over 15 years. Yet most employers design jobs as if all employees had an at-home spouse. This assumption is hurting our country and our economy. Two incomes provide a safety net and stability. Research group Catalyst reports that dual-earner couples more readily take chances in their careers. As one man...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | September 5, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (167)

An End and A Beginning

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Daniela Deane We've been anticipating it, we've been dreading it. We've been talking about it for years. But now it's here. As of a few days ago, we are officially empty-nesters. Both our sons have left home for college. Since I'm so new to this, I'll admit I'm no expert. I'm just trying to sort through the flood of intense feelings I've had since that day. As we pulled out of Charleston, leaving our baby boy behind, I cried. It felt so strange leaving him there. He lives in South Carolina now? But...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 29, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (198)

Cracking Pistachios

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. by Sarah Earle The other day my 4-year-old daughter abruptly abandoned her lunch and closed herself in the bathroom. After 10 minutes, I realized I hadn't heard that familiar refrain, "Mommy, wipe me!" So I peeked in to find Laura squirting hand soap on one of her sister's sandals. I didn't even bother asking her what on Earth she was doing. After four years as a parent, I've learned that very few of the things children do make sense. That same day, I had a mini revelation: I, too, needed to free myself from...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 22, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (244)

Young and Lonely

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Moira Demyan I am the first in my group of friends to have a baby. When I was pregnant, I thought motherhood would open doors to new friends and playgroups and activities. Honestly, I've never felt lonelier. Some days I feel like it is me and Henry -- now 10 months -- against the world. Sometimes, I can't even count my husband on my team. And I've realized I have two major barriers to the fabled world of mom friends. First of all, I work. I tried to join Waterbabies, and music class...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 15, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (275)

Do At-Home Dads Help or Hurt Work-Life Balance?

By Rebeldad Brian Reid For a long time, I've assumed I was doing right by society and my kids by being an active dad. I was thrilled to find academics that linked involved fathers to everything from reduced contact with juvenile justice to lower rates of teen pregnancy. And I thought that by throwing gender roles to the wind that I was part of a tiny revolution that would change the way that the home and the workplace operated. But lately, I've been forced to reconsider whether at-home dads do much to promote work-life balance or actually hurt the cause. It all started with a wonderful profile of at-home dads in and around San Francisco by the San Francisco Chronicle. Though a compelling and honest look at an interesting group of guys, a Salon piece raised a reasonable question: Aren't stories about at-home dads just celebrating traditional work-family choices? Does...

 

By Brian Reid | August 10, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (118)

From Olympics to Mocha Moms

Usually, On Balance features guest blogs only on Tuesdays. This week, however, I'm on vacation. So, I'm turning the forum over to several guest blogs. I'll rejoin the comments and conversation on Aug. 14. In the meantime, continue to send me your own guest blog (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. by Meredith Rainey Valmon When my first child, Travis, was born, my husband was working full-time and I was running track professionally, so I was able to be with my son almost all day. I had a sitter for a few hours in the afternoon while I trained. That was the best of both worlds. I was with Travis 21 hours a day, but I had an income and professional purpose and challenge outside of being a mother. When he was two, I began preparing for the 2000...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 7, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Nabbing Dads From the Very Beginning

As I mentioned last week, I am (again) a new father, which meant that I had the opportunity to spend a healthy chunk of my summer at Inova Fairfax Hospital. Though, admittedly, I didn't have the hard job; it wasn't an unpleasant stay. The nursing staff was exceptional, and there is a deli in the atrium that makes cloak-and-dagger sandwiches on the grill that are just to die for. Fairfax is one of the busiest hospitals for deliveries in the country, and they have the routine down, from the baby security system to the instant availability of lactation consultants to a list of prenatal education classes that goes way beyond just the standard-issue Lamaze-type class. They have classes for parents having multiples, parents preparing for Caesarean section, classes for siblings, classes for moms with asthma, even classes for grandparents. The gaping omission, of course, is anything aimed specifically at fathers....

 

By Brian Reid | August 3, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (137)

The Longest Traffic Light

Usually, On Balance features guest blogs only on Tuesdays. However, this week and next, I'm on vacation. So, I'm turning the forum over to several guest blogs. I'll rejoin the comments and conversation on Aug. 14. In the meantime, continue to send me your own guest blog (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. by Kevin Canavan It's 9:05 a.m. and I'm at the longest traffic light. I have to be at work by ten. I am a salesperson, so my days are flexible but endless and I frequently work weekends, over 50 hours per week. My wife is a federal government employee who job shares three days a week plus 2 hours per week from home. We have an eleven-year-old boy and seven-year-old triplets, two boys and a young lady. We are in the middle of a major home...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 2, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

The Opt Between Revolution

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Johanna Wald At a recent barbeque, I sat drinking margueritas with three other working mothers of teenaged children. Since producing our offspring, our employment histories have been, let us say, non-linear. I have bobbed and weaved between full-time employment, freelance writing, and part-time consulting. The others have followed only slightly more conventional paths as teachers and architects alternating between full- and part-time work since their children were approximately three months old. What none of us has yet to do, however, is either "opt out" or hand our children over to "strangers," the only...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | August 1, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Introducing Rebeldad

My name is Brian Reid, and Leslie has been nice enough to invite me on board to be a regular guest blogger. My official charge is to look at work-life balance questions from a dad point of view, and I'm thrilled at the prospect. The wonder of On Balance is the readers ... and the aggressive and thoughtful and passionate comments that flow after every post. I've written on the subject of work-family balance in the past -- some of you may have visited my blog at rebeldad.com -- largely from the point of view of an at-home dad with a bad freelance journalism habit, a juggling act I performed, with varied success, for the better part of three years. I remain incredibly interested in guys who make the choice to stay home and the way that society shapes their choices (and the way, in return, those pioneers then shape...

 

By Brian Reid | July 27, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Russian Orphan Makes Six

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Shari MacDonald Strong When I announce to friends and co-workers that a teenager from St. Petersburg is living with our family this summer, people think I'm crazy. They have a point. My husband and I already have three children, ages three to six. But I keep remembering what Michael J. Fox said in an interview before his fourth child's birth: Something about looking around at his family and realizing someone was missing from the party. If a child is missing from our family, I thought I knew where we'd find her. We've already...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 25, 2006; 07:13 AM ET | Comments (0)

A Summer To Remember

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Susan Lovett Payton I've worked for the same company for 13½ years -- full time for seven years and part- time (4 days a week) for the last 6½. While here, I've gone from being single and carefree to married with two children and a dog. Recently, my husband's work hours have gotten longer and travel has become a job requirement. I started thinking I needed to get back on balance. My initial plan was to leave my job at the end of the school year. I would spend a lazy summer with...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 18, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Seeking Imperfect Balance

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Dawn Reeves GUILTY. That's how I feel right now, and a lot of the time. My 17-month-old son is at day care, I'm at home working -- one of the two days a week I work from home. At first, I thought I could have him with me on these days. But part-time day care is not available in his age group in our area, and besides, I still can't get much done when he is around. So, I intersperse my work with laundry, dusting, vacuuming, mopping, all the while feeling torn and...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 11, 2006; 06:50 AM ET | Comments (278)

Single Mom Seeks Playdates, Blind Dates

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday -- in this case, Monday, because of tomorrow's holiday -- "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Rachel Sarah My boyfriend -- who was bipolar and an alcoholic -- walked out the door on Thanksgiving Day in 2000. His whereabouts? Unknown. In hindsight, I feel lucky to be free of him. But I wasn't exactly prepared to be the 28-year-old single working mom of our seven-month-old baby. As a researcher at Time Inc., then a freelance editor and writer in New York City, I'd managed to support myself for a decade. Now, I had to turn to family and friends...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | July 3, 2006; 07:58 AM ET | Comments (212)

Just A Nanny

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Lauren Hoffman I'm not Mary Poppins or Jo Frost or a character from The Nanny Diaries. I'm Henry's nanny. Caring for him may be the most important work I'll ever do. Often, I'm the only young, white nanny on the playground and I'm mistaken for a fellow mommy. True to playground politics, some moms back off when they learn I'm the nanny. An especially tactless mom once remarked, "Oh, sorry! Usually the nanny and the child are different ethnicities." Others stay and chat, and when they do, they start to talk about the...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 27, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Guest Blog: Down Will Come Mama: Work & Postpartum Depression

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. Down Will Come Mama: Work and Postpartum Depression Rebecca Kaminsky writes the column Down Will Come Baby for the online magazine Literary Mama, where she is also the Literary Reviews Editor. Her work has appeared in Literary Mama: Reading for the Maternally Inclined, as well as the anthology Wednesday Writers: Ten Years of Writing Women's Lives. She lives in Berkeley, Calif., with her husband and two sons. At 29, one month into new motherhood, I went out with my husband and son for our first dinner at a restaurant. On the way out to...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 20, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Father's Day

In honor of Father's Day this Sunday, I asked my husband to explain his views on dads, moms and "balance." Cat Poop on Sundays By Perry Steiner Dads are simple, very simple. We want to have fun with our kids, share laughs with our friends, have sex with our wives, and occasionally play or watch some sports. We like hanging out without being nagged. We go to work. That's about it. The truth is that a lot of men don't struggle with the same work-home balance issues that moms face, and we don't understand or relate to most of it. I've sat through dozens of conversations with Leslie and her friends on women's struggles of work vs. family. I'm probably one of the few men who has read her book. As a clueless husband, I was shocked by it. Shocked by the never-ending anxiety. Shocked by the extreme highs and...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 16, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Singletary Weighs in on Postnups Debate

Yesterday's postnup debate prompted some people to ask what Michelle Singletary would say about them. So, we asked Michelle to weigh in. Here's her response: Prenup and Postnup Debate By Michelle Singletary I found the blog discussion and comments very interesting yesterday. The question of the day was whether it makes sense to have a prenuptial agreement or a postnuptial agreement. A few folks suggested I should weigh in on the topic, and so I shall. In my latest book, "Your Money and Your Man: How You and Prince Charming Can Spend Well and Live Rich," I tell it like it should be. A prenuptial agreement is a plan to fail. A postnuptial agreement (a prenup done after the fact) is an exit strategy. Both are battle plans. Many will disagree with me, thinking this woman clearly hasn't got a grip on the high divorce rate in this country. I...

 

By Stacey Garfinkle | June 15, 2006; 08:45 AM ET | Comments (0)

Guest Blog: 'I Am an Autism Mom'

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. Everything Else Vanishes By Christina Adams Christina Adams is the author of A Real Boy: A True Story of Autism, Early Intervention and Recovery. Her work has appeared on NPR and in The Los Angeles Times Magazine and Brain, Child Magazine. Life was normal for my son for a time, and then it wasn't. The bright, social 15-month-old who charmed his pediatrician with his curiosity and skills turned somber, spent his time alone and became obsessed with water and vaccuum cleaners. I didn't know why, didn't know that at nearly three years old he'd...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 13, 2006; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (145)

Guest Blog: More on Mad Room Moms

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. By Jennifer Frey, a staff writer for the Washington Post and author of Chamique Holdsclaw: My Story. This blog is Jennifer's postscript to yesterday's article in The Washington Post Style section, Mom to the Max, describing the endless e-mails, backpack memos, potluck charts, field trip sign-up sheets and teacher gift registries required of today's elementary school Room Mothers. Diary of a Mad Room Mother Room Parents: Nothing but admiration there. Not sure whether or not I've offended and/or alienated the room moms in my second-grade daughter's class. (But here's the desperate plea: I hope...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | June 6, 2006; 07:21 AM ET | Comments (166)

Guest Blog: Building a Stepfamily

Welcome to the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday, "On Balance" features the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. Stepfamily Balancing Act by Anne Burt, the editor of My Father Married Your Mother: Writers Talk about Stepparents, Stepchildren, and Everyone in Between (including an essay by me). Anne's essays and fiction have appeared on NPR's "All Things Considered" and "Talk of the Nation" and in Salon, Working Mother, and The Christian Science Monitor. Anne lives with her husband, daughter and stepdaughter in Montclair, N.J. My second husband and I both have six-year-old girls. Just a few months ago, I returned to work full time. My new job (which brings in the health insurance...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | May 30, 2006; 09:00 AM ET | Comments (133)

Guest Blog -- Worst Mother Ever

Welcome to a new feature on On Balance, the Tuesday guest blog. Every Tuesday, I'll feature the views of a guest writer. It could be your neighbor, your boss, your most loved or hated poster from the blog, or you! Send me your entry (300 words or fewer) for consideration. Obviously, the topic should be something related to balancing your life. Worst Mother Ever By Lauri Githens Hatch, mother of five and staff writer at The Rochester Democrat and Chronicle. We met when she wrote a review of Mommy Wars for her newspaper. Over most of my ten years of single motherhood, memory conveniently draws a veil. But, since we're dispensing with all that I-hand-ground-his-food-for-six-months sanctimony, I offer this: I'd been the single mom of a 2-year-old boy for all of six weeks --- the same amount of time I'd been in my first newspaper reporting job at the Buffalo...

 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner | May 23, 2006; 06:00 AM ET | Comments (155)

 

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