Reporter's wife: Blackberry stole my husband
Today, I wrote a story about people -- mostly men -- who find that their smartphones are often more stimulating than the real world. My wife, Megan Wollman-Rosenwald, was so moved by the piece that she decided to respond (and please leave us your smartphone stories and experiences on the comment boards at the bottom of this page):
While reading this story, I was amazed: While my husband, the author, interviewed all of these people who live their lives via their smartphones, he could have easily written the story in first person, without interviewing a single subject. I believe he may be the single biggest offender of this new digital age. It does make me feel better that at least I am not alone, but the smartphone problem has often been a big issue in our house. My husband does not go anywhere or do anything without his phone. He must constantly be accessible, and when his phone dings with a message, he needs to immediately read it and respond, regardless of what we are doing. The other day, he was playing catch with our son and ding, he got a message. While our son called his name because he wanted to throw the ball back to him, my husband was too engrossed in whatever message he had received to respond to our 2 1/2 year old.
Sadly, I see how this feels much too often. While eating dinner, watching TV together, lying in bed at night, I have often wondered if he might pay more attention to me if I texted him instead of actually talking. There is a positive side, though. I know if I need to reach him when we are not together that he will respond to me fairly quickly -- as long as I type my question to him.
It is a bit of a blow to the ego, thinking that whatever is on his phone is more interesting to him that I am. I have often wanted and threatened to do physical damage to his phone. It is almost like he is having an affair with his phone -- but I have to watch!
I can understand the desire to see what new messages are popping in your inbox -- I have my own smartphone as well. But it would be nice to have some cell phone-free times when we could actually talk to each other and I wouldn't have to compete with a sleek little phone with a shiny screen. My only concern, though, is: Would we still have things to actually talk about?
Tell us your smartphone stories--Have you lost a relative or friend to the allure of the portable virtual world? Are you one of the people described in Mike Rosenwald's story or Megan Rosenwald's piece above? Tell us how you got that way and whether you see any way out...or whether you're happy with how you've changed. Your comments and stories are welcome on the comment board below--scroll down to the bottom of this page to leave your comment, or send us your thoughts by email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Michael S. Rosenwald
| February 21, 2010; 9:56 PM ET
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